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I don’t follow celebrities anymore. Ain’t nobody got time for that. But 10 years ago when I was 30, I did. I had a lot more time on my hands, and I still cared what was happening in celebrity world. Funny how the older I get, the more sorry I feel for celebrities. They have all the money in the world, yet most of them cannot get it together.
But back in 2006 I think most people knew about Bradgelina. Brad Pitt was Americas heart-throb and was married to Jennifer Anniston. Brad and Angelina Jolie did a movie together, Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Next thing you know Brad and Jennifer got divorced and Bradgelina was born. Rumors flew about their steamy love and soul mate relationship. Ah, so romantic.
They traveled the world. Adopted a bunch of kids. Gave birth to a bunch of kids, including a set of twins. Made pregnancy and postpartum look fabulous. They took the kids everywhere. They acted in and directed movies. Made a ton of money. They looked at each other lovingly on the red carpet. They talked about each other publicly. They were the ultimate super couple. They had it all. Beauty, money, fame and family. Not saying that all those things are important, but they made us normal people just a tad bit envious. They made the American dream a reality. A fantasy. Is is possible to have a lot of kids, love, fame and make it work? If they could do it, then us normal people were good.
Well apparently it only could last for 10 years. Huh. I hate to say it, but I’m disappointed. I thought they were infallible. Strong. In love. If they cannot make it work with all the money and help, then where does that leave the rest of us? They were the dream. Now just a sad divorce statistic.
Ok I get it, divorce happens, and for many reasons. Money, kids, jobs, infidelity, boredom, and even health issues. Sometimes, a couple just grows apart. Being married for 18 years myself, I get it. The intense love you feel when you fall in love fades and changes into a different kind of love. It is easy to become complacent and even take each other for granted. When you have kids, marriage morphs again. Most of your time is devoted to the kids, throw in exhaustion, work demands and laundry and poof, marriage is last.
Apparently, marriage changes for everyone. Rich and famous, or not. We change, we grow up. We have babies. We change more. We sometimes cannot imagine being that young in love person who walked down that aisle so many years ago. Seems like a lifetime ago.
But what Bradgelina’s divorce is making me realize is that divorce is real. Even the “perfect” marriage needs attention and work. No one is excluded from this. Even though our circumstances change, we have to keep in mind that “till death do us part” doesn’t. We must adapt, reposition and move on, hand in hand. Marriage is not to be taken for granted. We cannot forget the seriousness of the “Holy Matrimony”, an union created and blessed by God.
Farewell Bradgelina. It was fun while it lasted. I know you will both move on to others. For the rest of us, we will continue to plug away at this so-called life, marriage and family. We thank God for what we have, and for what we don’t.