Real life Struggles
Addiction This could be alcohol, drugs, sex, computers, work, exercise or food. (Or anything else that disrupts your daily life). When you are addicted, you have obsessive thoughts about doing or seeing something and when you complete that action, your brain releases chemicals that make you want to do it again, and the cycle continues. That is why long running addictions are harder to break than newer ones, because the brain has been hard-wired for a longer period of time. Addiction is not a weakness, but the brain’s chemical dependence to a feeling.
But the question to ask yourself if what started the addictive behavior. Addiction is self-destruction. You are basically killing yourself slowly, in the least you are damaging your well-being. But why would anyone want to hurt their own body? Here is a list of some of the most common reasons addictions start.
The 8 F’s of Addiction
Fear- Is something making your excessively fearful? Fear of death? The health of your loved ones? Being alone?
Fault- Did you do something that your feel is your fault that dramatically altered your life or someone else’s? Do you keep beating yourself up from something you did in the past?
Freedom- Are you trying to escape? Has the stress of everyday life got to you? Do you just need a break?
Forget- What are you trying to forget? Something from your childhood? Something you did?
Forgive- Cannot forgive someone? Yourself possibly? Are you mad at God because you feel like He has abandoned you?
Fraud- Trying to be someone you aren’t? Pretending? Are you hiding a deep dark secret?
Fun- Did the addiction start out as something fun and end up consuming you?
Failure- Did you fail at something? Do you feel like you cannot get anything right?
What Addiction Looks Like
Let me put these all into perspective. My husband and I went on cruise a few years ago. I like to people watch so I came to notice this one man on the first day of cruise. He was a man in his mid-late 40’s who was drinking hard around the pool and being playful and flirty with the others that were partying around the pool. The second day, he was seen again around the pool, drinking very early and hard, being loud and obnoxious. He seems to be on the cruise by himself. As the week went on and most other “normal” people started to calm down as far as the partying goes, he never did. In the beginning of the week he was one in the crowd, by the end, he was alone at the bar with his hand on a drink, head down, looking quite somber, not sober.
I don’t know this man, but I can make some assumptions. He obviously was an alcoholic. I know this because of the amount of alcohol he could consume and still stay functional. There were also clues from his body, red bloated face and distended abdomen. This man possibly started to drink because it was fun. His body liked the feeling of being drunk and then it became a crutch in his life possibly causing him to get divorced. Now he has failure at marriage and that makes him fearful of being alone. He also cannot forgive himself for ruining his life, so he drinks to forget all that he has done and how he is continuing the family tradition of alcoholism . He continues to drink because that is all he knows, and would feel like a fraud if he did anything else. He is angry at God for cannot forgive. And the cycle continues.
Why Addiction Sucks So Bad
Addiction is a complicated struggle because most of us deny it or hide it from others, so it doesn’t feel real or apparent. There is shame. For instance, alcoholics tend to hide their drinking, and families tend to cover for other alcoholic members. Binge eaters eat in secret, ect. ect. Denial is part of the disease. You lose touch with what is normal and healthy and the disease lies and tells you “it’s not that bad.” The reality is God sees everything. No addiction can be truly hidden.
The cycle of addiction is so tight that a single mere human find it very hard to break. That is why people need support systems, rehabilitation, groups, and sponsors. The first national rehabilitation group was Alcoholics anonymous, AA, has been around since 1935. Their goal is to help people stay sober and to help other achieve sobriety. AA started a twelve-step program as their foundation for success. The twelve-step process is based on the addict admitting he is powerless to his addiction and need a “high power” to get them out of addiction. Hmmm. Sounds familiar. Kind of like the Gospel. We are all sinners, we are separated from God based on our sinfulness, they only way to God is to surrender our self to God, believe He sent his Son to pay for our sins, and to dedicate our life to Him.
Addiction can be beat. With God anything is possible.
No matter what your view on God was before you became and addict, you absolutely need God now. Every human being will eventually let your down, and you yourself have let yourself down. But God’s love and grace is perfect and never ending. God wants you to be holy, joyful and full of His love.
You matter to God!
Everyone else maybe mad or fed up with your addiction, but God isn’t. He will never leave or forsake you. You matter to Him and He has a plan for you, and He is the creator of the universe, so that is awesome!
For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are good and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11.
Let’s see what the bible says about the 8 F’s of Addiction.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Psalms 23:4
All of us like sheep have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way; But the LORD has caused the iniquity of us all to fall on Him. Isaiah 53:6
For I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me. Against You, You only, I have sinned and done what is evil in Your sight, So that You are justified when You speak And blameless when You judge. Psalm 51:3-4
Who can discern his errors? Acquit me of hidden faults. Psalm 19:12
The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because He has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set free the oppressed. Luke 4:18
But now you have been set free for sin and have become slaves of God, the fruit you get leads to sanctification and its end, eternal life. Romans 6:22
I came that they may have life and have it abundantly, a complete life full of purpose. John 10:10
All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. Isaiah 43:18
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17
The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him. Daniel 9:9
As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 103:12
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8
Whoever hates, disguises himself with his lips and harbors deceit in his heart. Proverbs 26:24
Wouldn’t God find out, since he knows the secrets in our hearts? Psalms 44:21.
For everything that is hidden will eventually be brought into the open, and every secret will be brought to light. Mark 4:22.
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Ephesians 5:18
Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise. Proverbs 20:1
So I recommend having fun, because there is nothing better for people in this world than to eat, drink, and enjoy life. That way they will experience some happiness along with all the hard work God gives them under the sun. Ecclesiastes 8:15
Trust the Lord with all your heart, and don’t depend on your own understanding. Remember the Lord in all you do, and he will give you success. Proverbs 3:5-6
Our enemies have no reason to gloat over us. We have fallen, but we will rise again. We are in darkness now, but the Lord will give us light. Micah 7:8
For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 6:23
Hopefully if you have read this far, you feel a connection to what has been written. Think about the 8 F’s of addiction and what caused you to become an addict. Find the verses written about them and let them soak into your soul.
When you are ready to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, repeat this prayer:
“Dear Lord Jesus, I know I am a sinner, and I ask for your forgiveness. I believe you died for my sins and rose from the dead. I trust and follow you as my Lord and Savior. Guide my life and help me to do your will. -Amen.”
Now, go get a bible and start reading. Start going to a Christian Chuch. Pray continually. Listen to Amazing Grace. Talk to other Godly people who can guide you and start living your new life with God.
Please share this post if you know someone struggling. God Bess!